"So promise me you'll never forget...that you aren't an accident or an incident...you are a gift to the world, a divine work of art, signed by God. You were deliberately planned, specifically gifted, and lovingly positioned on this earth...Flooded by emotion, overcome by pride, the Starmaker turns to us, one by one, and says, 'You are my child. I love you dearly.'" Max Lucado, God Thinks You're Wonderful

Friday, March 4, 2011

Help this mama out!

This is so exciting and I need lots of help with this post.

For any of you that have adopted or fostered transracially, please give your input too!
TargetShopper commented and needs help with what would be good to have for a one year old African American girl. They have been fostering and are pursuing adoption for this little one and her friends are giving her a shower!
Congrats TargetShopper on your newest addition. Here are some of the things I thought of:
  • Tangle Teezer
  • Comb Set (you can find these at WalMart)
  • Styling brush

  • Aquafor

  • Barrettes, beads, bands.
  • Extra Virgin Coconut Oil
  • Hair Lotion (I like Just for Me because it's cheap at Walmart & Target)

  • Leave In Conditioner & Styling Gel- what I have found is that there is nothing magical, it's just what works for you and your child. This might be fun for your friends to just start a collection for you to try. I would recommend smaller bottles so that you can try them out.

  • Aveeno lotion (gobs and gobs of this)

  • Kids satin sleep cap

  • Satin crib sheets (I had someone make them on Etsy)
  • Books with black children/families in them (The Colors of Us, God's Dream, Brown Like Me, I love My Hair, Please Baby Please, We're Different We're the Same, What I like About Me, I love you More than Rainbows, Beautiful)

  • Ethnic Decor and Christmas decor (pictures, nativity, angels, santa, ornaments-find lots online) We use pictures of our kids and their birth family, but some may not have that.

  • Childrens adoption books (Forever Fingerprints, Families are Different, How I Was Adopted, When God Found Us You)
  • Life Box-not necessarily an AA thing, just a great adoption gift. Some type of box to keep all her private adoption stuff in: pics of birthparents, any letters/cards or keepsakes from birth parents, finalization stuff, etc. We got ours at Things Remembered
  • Reading for Mama: Twenty Things by Sherrie Eldridge, I'm Chocolate You're Vanilla, Black Baby White Hands, The Connected Child
  • Resources for Mama: Ethnic restaurants, transracial playgroups, transracial workshops in the area, support groups for families of adoption, multicultural events in town. Someone could put together a list of these things for you.
  • Dolls- We can find black baby dolls in most Targets and some Walmarts, but also check out DollsLikeMe.com (they also have biracial baby dolls)

The ultimate gift of love was made by a friend. She bought us the black and white versions of the book I Love You So Much. Then she cut and pasted them to make us a book that matched our transracial family!

Hope this helps! This might be a great way to share ideas if anyone has things they've found that they want to share!


Tom and Ashley said...

What a great post Molly! I agree with a lot of what you suggested...I love the tangle teezer, and coconut oil. We don't use hair lotion all that often anymore, but if we do, we use a shea butter organic type lotion, not so many chemicals as lots of others... another thing I would add to an important list because I use it every day is a spray bottle of water..some people add some conditioner to it or something of that sort.
Congratulations on the upcoming adoption! Jealous that her friends are throwing her a shower, always thought that was such a great idea! :)

Chassidy said...

Girl you did!! What a great idea...There are even a few of those books I don't have so making a trip to the book store sooon! What a fun idea! Can't think of anything else to add

targetshopper said...

oh my goodness! I have tears of thankfulness! Thank you so much for posting all of this, pictures and all. You went way beyond and I appreciate it so much!! So many fabulous suggestions! I love the life boxes so much and I am definitely writing this all down to pass along to friends! Truly, thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Jessica said...

I have been following (although it feels more like spying), your blog since I discovered that my college friend Kara was following it. I have to say that I just love your family. I had so much fun looking at the pictures from your parents' visit and was smiling, knowing what fun you all had together.

I am a huge fan of adoption and I feel privileged to look in on your beautiful family. Thank you for your transparency with your life. I just wanted to let you know that your blog makes me smile from ear to ear.

I look forward to continue to follow your adventures in the future.