Thursday, April 29, 2010
This came in the mail today! Wahoo! I ordered this last week and was sure I had waited entirely too late for Mother's Day for our sweet Momma G. I can't wait to give it to her!
We have had some Duke's of Hazards moments lately. It's been fun all the looks we get when this happens at school, the store, etc. Some things I just think are not worth making a fuss about. They are kids and this IS fun. I would do it if it were socially acceptable.
Sadie bug has been a bit under the weather. Bwess her wittle heart. This girl has no extra pounds to spare, so it's been sad how much she has puked over the last week. I am just glad she was up and and running with the boys this morning. She spotted a bird and is chasing it!
Tomorrow is the birth mother retreat that our agency does so please keep the 13 moms in your prayers that will be attending. We pray they can feel as loved and cherished as they are!
Thanks for stopping by!
Monday, April 26, 2010
God is so good to us. And it's not like I didn't know that last week...it's just that there are so many more things going on right now than I can explain here...and they all seemed to hit at once. Mercy!
Blake had this weekend off after the kids had hardly seen him but 10 minutes Monday-Friday. So it's been absolutely wonderful! I've hardly cleaned the house all weekend, so it's messy round here...but I'd rather spend down time hanging out with Blake than cleaning.
We worked in the yard for hours on Saturday, then came in and cleaned up just in time for church. Luckily, our kids are at an age where they still think yard work is fun and going to Lowe's is super cool. Sunday we went to the zoo then did more yard work while the kids napped. The weather has been great!
As poopy as my heart felt last week, I feel that much more wonderful today. It allows me to soak up moments with Owen, Cooper and Sadie that I think I might have missed otherwise. Its those little things that I seem to take for granted when life is going just as planned. Tragedy seems to jerk me awake enough to realize all that we do have and savor it that much more. Bedtime routine that can became ordinary, now seems to hold so much more significance. Not only do I realize more now about their miraculous stories, but I thank God again and again for orchestrating all of it so that they could be ours. When I look at KK's story and see how many things "went wrong" (I use quotes because I know this is God's perfect plan, it just wasn't mine) I realize all the more what it took for our pumpkins to be ours.
Some of our favorite friends and neighbors! They give us candy and let us jump on their trampoline!!!Owen was acting like a monkey when Sadie saw him and joined in on the fun! So cute!
She LOVES the trampoline. Looks like she's having some deep thoughts!
Coop, you make my heart smile! There are so many things you do in a day that I can't help but just burst with joy and thankgiving.
So sweet how Cooper is taking her down the slide. He was trying to slow them down by holding on to the side, but then in an attempt to hold onto her he is choking her. Sweet brother.
Love, love, love this picture. It's hard to describe how much fun we have at the zoo...but pictures like this help me capture the memories.
One of the few pictures of my O-man.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
- Memory Book
- Family Picture framed in recordable frame-record kids saying "I love you Mandy"
- Mark Schultz's song "Everything to Me" typed out with handprints/footprints of child framed
- Piggies and Paws
- Adoption Jewelry-You can't really see this, but it's to die for cute. It says, "Forever in My Heart" and then we put Skielar on the other tag...Sadie's birth name. I got this on Etsy from The R House. (The cutie patootie baby w/ onesie above is from them too!)
- Max Lucado's Gift Book-God Thinks You're Wonderful
- Gift card if they like to shop (and what girl doesn't?)
Thursday, April 15, 2010
"Where did you get them?" I politely inform them of the agency we used and the city they were born in.
"Are they foster kids?" No, but even if they were that's not right to ask. If we had foster children, pointing that out only reminds the child of the situation with their first family. They need to feel loved and chosen, and not reminded all of the time they are only here for a little while. They aren't my adopted kids either...they are my children! They just happen to join our family through adoption. It's not a label, just a part of their story.
"Do they have the same parents?"- Yes, my husband and I are their parents. No, they do not all share biological parents. And why does that matter anyway? Questions about birth families are generally off limits. I will tell you what I want you to know. That is very private information and very intimate to my child. I want them to understand their story first before everyone else does. I could not say that enough...be very sensitive to the subject of birth families.
"Do you have any of your own?" - I really don't like this one. What makes a child more my own than these three? Please use the right words: biological children. And no, we don't have any of those, we chose not to. This wasn't our plan B.
"Do they call you mom?" No lie, I got this one yesterday. Lady...come on. Have you never known a child in an open adoption? Yes, I am their mom and they call me that. This one was almost laughable. But so many people have questions about open adoption. We often talk about how our kids have 2 moms that love them very much. We know less about their birth fathers, so we don't talk a ton about them except for in very quiet moments.
"How do they feel about open adoption?" First, we never say that "open adoption". They just know adoption and they know their story and it's very natural for them. They have no weirdness that adults put on kids about having relationships with their birth parents. That's all bunk in my opinion. That's adoptive parents making excuses for why they don't embrace birth families. Kids pick up on how parents feel about their birth parents. They will be weird about it if you are...and I seriously believe it will become an issue down the road. They will embrace it if you do, and your closeness with your child will deepen because you are loving and accepting ALL of who they are.
But some of the worst things are not questions at all, but what people think are compliments. These make me want to gag.
"They are so blessed to have you." Are you kidding? We are BEYOND blessed to have THEM!!! I mean, I think we are good parents, but every family is blessed to be together.
"You are doing the ultimate mission for God." NO! This is not a mission, these are my children. I didn't save them. Yuck. That's awful for a child to hear that someones sees them at "outreach" or a good deed. Please don't adopt children because you feel this way. Can you imagine what it must feel like for a child to be brought up feeling this from home?
"I just couldn't do it. I couldn't handle losing a child." Well, life is not about you. How come I have never heard someone say that of marriage? One in every 2 marriages fails, and yet no one says I just couldn't get married because chances are we'd be divorced. No one could walk into this wanting to lose a child, but it's well worth the risk. Being with Kennedy for 8 days was worth the loss of her. I'd do it a million times over. We are not super heroes, we are parents and we have to take that risk because it's a part of the journey. Don't act like we don't have feelings and intense bonding and deep love for every child placed with us. God carries us through, it's not by our own strength.
One of my sisters wanted to know what IS okay to say. She sees families like ours in public and wants to show her love and support. Yes, we have a need to talk to everyone in our family! Here are things I love hearing and we actually get a lot of these:
Your family is beautiful! Sorry but we just couldn't keep from staring.
Your family looks just like my family. I love seeing that!
Your children are gorgeous. They behave like angels too (just kidding, just wanted to see if you were still paying attention!)
Your kids are beautiful. We have always talked about adopting, do you mind if I ask questions?
Your family makes me smile.
Okay, hope this was read how my heart meant it to come out. I never want to offend anyone in writing this stuff.
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
We made cookies for Blake to celebrate, but I am pretty sure they were almost gone when he got home. Sadie ate 3 herself! This is her sneaking another...notice how sly her face looks?
Our neighbors got a trampoline so they are letting us use this one for a bit! The kids LOVE it!Gigi reading bedtime stories! Do you think they adore her?
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
To the one who's dreams are falling all apart
And all you're left with is a tired and broken heart
You will be safe in His arms
'Cause the hands that hold the world are holding your heart
This is the promise He made
He will be with You always
When everything is falling apart
You will be safe in His arms
We have felt so wrapped up in God's goodness today. I won't lie...it's been an excruciatingly painful day. But in the midst of that we have undoubtedly felt the presence of God. He guarded our children's hearts and they handled the transition like a piece of cake.
I was able to keep it together for the most part, and only lost it when leaving the house with my mom and heading for the agency with sweet KK. The meeting at the agency could not have gone better. This pumpkin has so much love around her its unreal. She has 4 parents that love her more than life itself, and two that will be able to parent her through life. I was able to express in my sobs that we only wanted to adopt her if it was what they BOTH wanted and felt was right. We were not in this to convince anyone that we are better than they or more prepared. K deserved to have a loving and graceful transition and she did. It could not have been more peaceful. They were so patient with me as I said goodbye and kissed her chubsy cheeks one last time.
Again, sorry for a lack of details, but its just really not important. If you wanna know more, you can email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org
All day I have felt peace and known that God is holding K. Thank you so much for all of the texts, emails, messages, phone calls and cards. You have no idea how much your words soothe this ache in our hearts. When you have adopted 3, you simply can't stay sad at tragedies like this. We know that all 3 of our blessings came to us as miracles, and we know God has got something planned for us. So tonight we rest in His promises and love...
“I am here