"So promise me you'll never forget...that you aren't an accident or an incident...you are a gift to the world, a divine work of art, signed by God. You were deliberately planned, specifically gifted, and lovingly positioned on this earth...Flooded by emotion, overcome by pride, the Starmaker turns to us, one by one, and says, 'You are my child. I love you dearly.'" Max Lucado, God Thinks You're Wonderful

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Birth Mothers Day

Oh this is such a wonderful time of year as Mother's Day approaches I think about all of the mamas out there. Those that are moms for the first time will be filled with so much pride and thanksgiving on this day. Then there are those that are struggling with the loss of a child on this day...oh what they wouldn't give to just hold their baby/child one last time. There are those that are waiting for a placement to happen...they might have been waiting just weeks, or months, or maybe even years....this day will be filled with ache and wonder if their hope for a child will always be void.
But the Saturday before Mother's Day, May 8th this year, is dedicated to those that have placed a child for adoption. It's Birth Mother's Day. No, I still haven't found this to be a priority for Hallmark...but I have figured out ways to make our own cards for these precious moms in our life. I wanted to share a couple of things we have done in years past for Mother's Day for our birth mamas. And I was hoping that you could share yours. I am always searching for cool ideas for our birth moms and thought this would be a great way to come up with new ideas.
  • Memory Book

  • Family Picture framed in recordable frame-record kids saying "I love you Mandy"

  • Mark Schultz's song "Everything to Me" typed out with handprints/footprints of child framed

  • Piggies and Paws

  • Adoption Jewelry-You can't really see this, but it's to die for cute. It says, "Forever in My Heart" and then we put Skielar on the other tag...Sadie's birth name. I got this on Etsy from The R House. (The cutie patootie baby w/ onesie above is from them too!)

  • Max Lucado's Gift Book-God Thinks You're Wonderful
  • Gift card if they like to shop (and what girl doesn't?)
Our incredible agency, Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption Services, has put on a Birth Mom Retreat for the last 3 years for it's birth mothers over Birth Mother's Day. I love that they do this...especially as an adoptive mother to know that these women are cherished, pampered, and nurtured over this special weekend.
Please remember all of these women in your prayers over the next few weeks and especially in your church over Mother's Day. It is such an incredible day, but for so many women, it comes with deep pain and it may make all the difference in their world if someone remembers their loss and void on this day.
Any other gift ideas??? Please share!


Krista said...

Molly, love all these ideas! Just wanted you to know that Hallmark will hear about Birth Mother's Day. I work there, and I will pass along the word to our folks that plan Mother's Day! Love you much!

Melodie said...

am i craz or is mother's day, may 9th this year and birth mother's day may 8th???? isn't that right? i said to jeremy a few months back that we need to mail some fun gifts to M on this day. so that is what we plan to do. through our visits, i've gotten to learn some things she likes - so it should be a fun treat for us to do.

Molly said...

Hey girls!!! Thanks to both of you for posting comments...Yes Melodie you are RIGHT! I had my dates off! And Krista!!! WAHOO! That would be FANTASTIC! I didn't mean to be nasty, it's just always been a struggle to find cards for these incredible women. Thanks for being willing to share with your company!

ACL said...

Molly, I just love you and your amazing heart!!! You are such a blessing to so many!!!

Hey - Josh Gunkel works for Hallmark too... maybe you could put a bug in his ear about some cards too! It can't hurt! :)

Love you, girl!

Krista said...

Molly - I definitely was not offended! We are always looking for consumer feed back about our product, so keep it coming! (P.S. I literally just emailed your idea to our Creative team, so I will keep you posted...)